" Placemaking

 Happy Saturday Kings, and Queens. How are you doing today? I pray all is well with you. I am having a good day so far. I made some good breakfast while playing my worship music simultaneously. It has been placed on my heart to discuss placemaking. Place-making means creating places and focusing on transforming public spaces to strengthen the connections between people, and these places. Place-making is a process centered on people, and their needs, aspirations, desires, and visions, which relies strongly on community participation. Holding space is making space for somebody else's experience and centering them. To hold space, one must be fully present and create a safe environment. Holding space refers to the act of being fully present with someone else, without judgment or distraction, so that the person can share their experiences and perspective. Engaging in attentive listening and offering nonjudgmental support. I am going to share the different experiences I have encountered when it comes to placemaking. I am the type of person who pours out all of me, my support, and love. I make space for my family, loved ones, people I don't know, and those in need. Let me be clear I am not perfect; I have self-sabotage friendships and family. I create a safe environment and nonjudgmental environment. Like right now I am being vulnerable and being transparent. I am in a season of my life where I want to make space for people who make space for me. The space that I am talking about is support, accountability, empathy, compassion, an ear to listen, to sit with me quietly as I yell, scream, cry, and vent. There have been plenty of times even now when I will lay my head on a pillow and cry at night. I created a place for people who I actually thought cared for me, and they will do the same for me. I will text them just to say that I am checking in on them, and I won't get a response back until 3 weeks later or a month later. I felt so rejected, I felt like I was a bad person. When it comes to family it was the same way. I will talk to my Father God and ask him what is wrong with me am I a bad person that no one will respond back to me or is it because they are caught up in their own lives. What I mean by that is when people get married and have children, they will only focus on them and outcast the rest. I am not saying all married people let me be clear. When we get into relationships, we do the same thing. When we start a new job, career, or school we do the same thing. We have feelings. I will ask God things like should I continue to be friends with this person if they are not making space for me, should I continue to talk to this person when they are not holding place for me? I know that it can come off as people-pleasing or seeking validation, but it is not. It is I don't feel heard or seen. I feel like I am that little girl again with abandonment issues. Don't get me wrong we all have work, school, spouse, relationships, children, ministries, etc. A one-minute text or phone call can brighten up someone's day. A simple hey even to someone living on the streets can bring joy to them. I want a bond with queens, and kings where I don't have to always be the first one to reach out all the time. Placemaker who will reach out to me first. We don't have to be caught up all the time with what we have going on. I know that I can't change a person only God can. I understand the burden was because I wanted their actions to be the same as mine instead of understanding that everyone is different. I realize that I should accept the person just as they are. I have a choice to deal with or not deal with it. I make room for the Kingdom, and they make room for me. I am seen and heard by them and that is a beautiful thing. I love getting overflowed by their presence, and just sitting in their presence brings me joy.  Let's bring unity and harmony. All of us should hold space in our hearts for each other. Feel free to leave a comment or fill out the contact form and I will reach out to you anytime. Have a wonderful and safe week. Love always chosen princess.